Life Unfolds! How well do you handle the surprises?

May 6, 2019 | by Tricia Parido | Master Coach at Turning Leaves Recovery Life and Wellness Coaching


No matter how long you have been in recovery it is important that you stay prepared for ‘life’ situations to happen in ways opposite from what you had imagined.

In my journey of repair and rebuild I have run into many exchanges and events that, well, were just baffling to me because I could not comprehend what may have driven them to happen. I don’t have the ability to see the reason behind manipulation, backstabbing, sabotage, dishonesty, or just plain ole’ ruthlessness. Especially when, in my opinion, nothing was done to provoke or warrant this inappropriate type of behavior and its action appears to merely be because of spite.

What I have learned over the years is this…. People will do hurtful and hateful acts because they are insecure. Insecure with themselves, with their actions, with their motives. And generally, I find that this insecurity is because they have frequently chosen to take shortcuts, manipulate outcomes, and use others to create gain for themselves.

I know this because I have trained myself to slow down my knee jerk reactiveness to lash out verbally, retaliate, or be vindictive. I take the time to ask, “how much of this really has to do with me?” “what pieces of the issue come from an external source?” and “what, if anything, do I need to do going forward to improve the situation?”. I must stay focused on my mission, my vision, my purpose. I must remain true to myself, honoring what I believe in, and what I stand for. Admitting or apologizing only when I have caused harm or done wrong.

Now there is a great deal of other stress management techniques that I use within this process. It takes a great deal of work, self-control, and self-respect to take the higher ground when ‘life’ situations present with what I consider to be unethical or unscrupulous acts. Which is why I am so thankful that I took the time to write the Building Milestones life skill curriculum workbook. I don’t just use it when I am engaged as a Certified Recovery Coach or Certified Life Coach. I use the work in my daily life. It is the way I live my life.

If in your daily life you find that situations and their outcomes aren’t in line with how you would prefer them to unfold or are as baffled as I frequently am, reach out. My ‘Not the Normal Faces of Addiction’, ‘Life and Wellness’, ‘Addiction Treatment Transition to Life’, and ‘Tune Up Your Recovery, Relapse Prevention’ programs put you in touch with a Certified Life Coach and Certified Recovery Coach that will relate to your personal needs and how to help you incorporate the Building Milestones life skills.

One Comment on “Life Unfolds! How well do you handle the surprises?

  1. Fantasy. I will contemplate the wisdom stated in your article throughout the day.

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