Tricia Parido| July 18, 2019 | https://turningleavesrecovery.com
Over the years I have dealt with many issues that presented me with the need for therapeutic intervention, support, and guidance to handle the depressive states, uncontrolled anxiety, addictions, eating disorders, and trauma. I engaged with counselors, therapists, and life coaches to obtain balance, mental health stability, and effective coping skills. For the most part, my interactions were beneficial, that is except for when I was leaning on the wrong professional for a specific need which at the time, I didn’t know could be a real thing. I thought a mental health provider, regardless of their title would be appropriate. What I know now that I have studied all three at great lengths is that there is a difference between the therapeutic model and the coaching model of care. The tricky part for most people is knowing who to seek for what situation.
To quote Sharon Saline, PsyD, who wrote What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew, “Therapy and coaching both facilitate change in people and assist them with gaining perspective on their problems.” She goes on to explain the similarities and differences as approaches and licensure requirements. What I found interesting is that she pointed out that therapists assess, diagnose, and treat DSM classified mental health conditions from a holistic perspective whereas coached take a more educational process using a wellness model. I describe the differences more as one (therapy) works more in the past leading up to now and the other (coaching) works more in the now going forward. But it is important to know that not all therapists or coaches have the same knowledge or skill sets. For example, I practice as a Nationally Certified Life Coach, but I hold nine other coaching credentials along with counseling and I have a degree in Psychology which may set me apart from another coach that solely focuses on career coaching.
I do a great deal of reading about the different approaches available and listen to the general populations’ confusion when it comes to choosing a provider. Here are the most frequently suggested questions to consider asking yourself during your selection process.
I can’t express enough how life-changing and empowering engaging in mental health and life improvement can be, regardless of what type of a provider you ultimately need to seek out. Just be open, honest, and genuine. The time has long past when shame and guilt are attached to needing support.
June 15, 2019 | by Tricia Parido | Master Coach at Turning Leaves Recovery Life and Wellness Coaching
Everyone experiences stress in different ways. On that same note, everyone has their idea about how they think it is best to manage it. Often what I see is that they have been utilizing the same technique for years and now they are perplexed as to why it is no longer effective.
As people, we grow and change. The same goes for what prompts stress to emerge. What was stressful when we were teens or young adults will not affect us in the same way. We will see things differently as we settle into our professions, get married, become parents or grandparents, and even as we experience traumatic events.
Another thing I see that is so often overlooked is that stress impacts people on several levels. Most often they don’t associate the symptoms being experienced with stressors, they instead associate the symptoms as the cause of their troubles. With life changes, stress can manifest in the physical body which may be telling you that you are stressed in new ways as you move through life stages. It can show up as increased fatigue, more frequent infections, or even skin irritations. Your behavior may feel different. For many individuals, this looks like a greater propensity toward accidents, a new feeling of restlessness, and an inability to quiet the mind adequately to fall asleep. Cognitive complaints that are most frequently shared with me are feeling mentally foggy or trouble remembering, making hasty, impulsive decisions or the lack of being able to decide, and increased negativity. And finally, emotionally, people come to me with high levels of apprehension, in depressive states, depleted confidence, and irrational irritability.
So, if stress triggers morph as we go through life, why wouldn’t our stress management techniques need to change and grow with us? Think about it, you change your workout routine when you want to lose a few pounds, you change your dietary practices as your metabolism slows down, you change your social and recreational activities to match your home and work life responsibilities, and you change your home life structure with new relationships and parenthood.
In an article I wrote some time back I presented the following 3 summarized techniques:
Perhaps the most difficult challenge for the individual working on cognitive restructuring, or attitudinal change, is in the act of implementing the desired and new outlook they have created. Breaking habits and being comfortable with the unknown can be frightening, which is usually when defense mechanisms will kick in and the familiar responses will come out. Adopting or substituting old, less favorable attitudes and behaviors with more appealing responses takes practice, but the more they are repeated and the more the positive results are experienced they will become as natural as their predecessors. It is crucial, however, with every change, to take the time to evaluate its outcome. The goal is to benefit from the hard work, don’t be afraid to go back to the drawing board and continue to make adjustments.”
In my Certified Life Coaching programs your Life Coach, Recovery Coach, or Wellness Coach will work with you through the Turning Leaves unique curriculum Building Milestones to develop all three of these stress management strategies along with a great deal of other capabilities that promote a calm mind, decrease negative perceptions, let go of toxic feelings, and promote realistic perspectives and thoughtful perceptions.
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