Social Anxiety and Recovery

Learning how to manage social anxiety during recovery is like building a muscle.

Until you start to exercise it, strength cannot develop.

In the Recovery Community, the struggle with social anxiety is common place. There is fear of judgement, scrutiny, labels, and distrust. More so, there is the internal belief of being unworthy and invalid. All of which do not improve without the proper guidance toward emotional stability, the development of the proper life skills, distress tolerance, and personal empowerment.

Most often the individual in early recovery does not know where to start. We see this mostly with those that have completed their recovery program and are now back at home trying to figure out “what now”. How do I re-enter the life I was previously numbing out and face it with confidence? How do I decide what I need to do first? What am I comfortable with? What am I not comfortable with? Where can I find people that are like me? When will they see that I have changed? That I am determined, focused, and capable!

Perhaps the questions or thoughts ought to be…. “when will I see that I am worthy of the life I desire?”, “how can I feel validated in my journey?”, “from this moment going forward, what do I need to do to get me where I want to be?”, and “who can teach me how to be successful in recovery in a way that I can understand?”

The answers and solutions are accessible. Recovery Transition to Life Skill Building is available.

You can harness your social anxieties. All you need is the desire and dedication to develop the muscle.

Published by Tricia Parido https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/social-anxiety-recovery-tricia-parido/

Sending a Letter of Hope

I want to talk to you for a minute.

These things you are weighed down by, addiction and cravings, that are being fueled by anxiety, fear, and depression. They are just thoughts. And guess what… thoughts can be changed any time you don’t like them.

The same thing goes for your perceptions. If you perceive it as a negative, or even a threat, that’s exactly what it will be, negative or threatening.

I have been there, and sometimes I even have fleeting blips of the same old thoughts and perceptions. And sometimes I have just a good old-fashioned week filled with all of it.

So, what do I do?

I change! Scary thought, right? But honestly, what is change really?

Learning! It’s just learning something new, discovering something new, experiencing something new.

So, in a nut shell, what we are saying when we are resistant or fearful of change is that we are simply afraid to learn something new. We are fearful of the unknown. And we are unwilling to expand our experiences.

Yeah, I get it. That sounds great and all. But how do you know where to start? And if you’re filled with anxiety about starting how do you get past that?

Well, I start at the basics. The core foundation that lead me on this journey of self-discovery, sober, with a clear mind.

I reflect. I get centered and grounded. I examine my life balance. I acknowledge my core non-physical feelings (anxiety, irritation, instability), identify what is driving them, and I investigate where my core beliefs are residing.

Then, I get real. I ask myself right here right now in this moment what do I need to think, feel, or do, that will have me obtain resolution and begin moving forward to where I ultimately want to be.

After that, the work begins. One step at a time I climb up one step closer to being free of cravings, free of anxiety, fear, or depression. Free from self-doubt, judgement, and negative perceptions about the beautiful life I have been afforded.

I am creating myself in the light I wish to shine and as the light I wish to be seen. 

Tricia

Published by Tricia Parido https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/sending-letter-hope-tricia-parido/